Some folks call it “Slave Hair”, “Nappy”, “Knotty”, “Beady Bead” so on and so forth. For some reason, the 4C hair texture label has received a bad wrap. All these labels are mostly negative which leave many naturalistas desiring for a different texture. And let’s be honest, who would want to be associated with any negative connotations?
If you noticed, you hardly find anyone to come out and say proudly “YES, I have 4C Hair Only” or “My hair is mainly of a 4C texture” or how about “OMG! I love my 4C Hair”. There are so many wash and go tutorials created to take the 4C Hair to mimic the textures of 3B, 3C and 4A. Why the longing for something other than our own?
For the longest time I was always against hair typing and thought it was silly because most people have a mix of hair textures throughout their heads. [insert Indian or good hair claims] Now that I’ve started to blog and record videos about Natural Hair, I understand just how useful it is to label your hair. When looking for products or advice it is helpful to be able to identify with a label or type to get the best advice that would be best suited for your needs. So by me saying to everyone “4C is my predominant hair type” women can decide if my advice or experience would help them on their journey.
Now about this attraction scenario, let’s get into this shall we. Every since I can remember I have always heard the negative descriptors of 4C Hair and people advising me to comb it, straighten it, braid it, or do “something” with it. This has always left me feeling unwanted which led me to hate and be ashamed of my hair. I would RUN far away from water or sweat for fear of my actual hair being revealed. HOW INSANE DOES THIS SOUND?!
It wasn’t until I cut my hair back in November 2013, that I fell in love with my hair ( and myself ultimately) completely. There’s something about my coils that I can’t stop smiling about. Not only does the haircut helps to showcase my best facial features but my hair texture (yes 4C) helps to frame my face just right. Someone commented on a hair video I uploaded and mentioned how they hardly see anyone with 4C Hair with a tapered cut. Let’s be honest now, 4C hair in the natural hair community is hardly ever glorified. Not as much as the looser curl patterns. That’s a fact. Take a look at most pictures on Pinterest… or just go to Youtube for that matter.
Is it attractive though? YES, I think so. When I where my hair at it’s most coily kinky manner I get way more compliments from men on the streets of D.C. than when I have a bomb twistout. I have more MEN, BLACK MEN, flirt with me when my hair is “napppy” than when it’s stretched. So why hide the 4C Hair?? Luptia Nyong’o looks absolutely amazing with her hair texture the way it is. AFRICANEXPORT looks stunning with her 4C Hair mane the way it is. Jenelle Stewart, Joulezy, Vee Pee Jay and other women in my life are breathtaking with their 4C Hair. I feel at my best when I can show off just how coily my hair is… oh the coils!
So why is it that black WOMEN still have such a complex with the 4C Hair in 2014? Because it looks like the MEN in our community are quite alright with it. Don’t mistake me mentioning a man’s perspective as justification for valuing your own beauty. But let’s be honest, most heterosexual women look to a man’s attention. It’s nice. Nothing is wrong with that. Loving the way YOU look FIRST would be the best place to start though.
Until next time…. Peace.
I’m sure you’re thinking, “Oh but your hair ain’t coarse like mine! So it’s not the same.” Our textures may not be the exact same but loving every follicle on your body is still important. I think the Creator gave you that head of hair to highlight the best you. It’s up to you to figure out how.